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Must Manners be Taught? by: Jacquie McTaggart PLEASE answer the following questions honestly. (Go ahead ' you won't be graded.) Does your child'¦ Greet you with something other than a grunt in the morning? Use the word 'PLEASE' when he asks you to purchase a $90 pair of designer jeans? Say 'THANKS' when you take his forgotten homework assignment to school? Utter 'EXCUSE ME' after he accidentally knocks you down on his way to the phone? Write Grandma a thank-you letter for the DVD she sent in the mail? Chances are pretty good that a few of you answered, 'yes' to some of these questions. Chances are even better that many of you answered, 'no' to most of them. During my lengthy career (forty-two years) in the classroom I observed a drastic decline in what we call 'Good Manners.' I have no answers (or theories) as to why this has occurred, but it has. I believe that we must make an attempt to correct the situation. Good manners are the cornerstone of courteous behavior. They provide the impetus to say the words and exhibit the behaviors that distinguish us humans from the rest of the animal kingdom. Good manners show consideration for others. Good manners demand that intentional sounds of physical relief such as belching and 'fluffing' are saved for non-public areas. (You male readers may call 'fluffing' by another name, but I'm sure you get the idea.) Good manners encompass all the things that make the people around us feel good. They compel us to eliminate words, sounds, and actions that cause others in our presence to feel uncomfortable. In essence, they enable us to be an accepted member of a civilized society. Good manners are not automatically caught, they must be taught. A child or adolescent does not magically discover on his own the fact that common decency and politeness help to make him a more socially acceptable person. Neither does he understand that those attributes will ultimately contribute to his success, and help to make him a happier individual. It's up to us to teach our children these concepts. How do we do that? Good manners, like most values, must be demonstrated and lived in the home if they are to become a permanent part of the child's character. The school should not be expected to bear the primary responsibility for teaching good manners. Seven hours a day for nine months of the year is not an adequate amount of time to instill a lasting principle or a moral value. (In one year, the average kid spends '1
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